Was it good for you?- Part 2
Posted in Blatherings on 09/19/2009 10:47 am by Michele
As you may remember part 1 ended with a rather unpleasant ending to my first fraternity toga party in fall 1969. After much reflection and talking to more than a few of my friends I decided that I had to go ahead and “get it over with”. Coming to this decision took me a couple of weeks. Frankly I wasn’t too enthused with the prospect. After making the decision I had to choose the time; I knew the place, my dorm room. I decided that if I was going to do this it wasn’t going to be in the back of a car or at some sleazy motel.
Since most of the girls at the dorm were gone on dates Friday night, the halls would be pretty empty. Also, my room was the very first room on the hall, it wouldn’t be hard to sneak him in. All I had to do was make sure the girl at the check in desk was busy at the time and I could walk him right by. It would be easy. Most of the girls slept in on Saturday morning, so there’d be less chance of him getting seen leaving then. Since I wasn’t on the pill at that time, I went to the pharmacy across the street and bought some foam to make sure I didn’t get pregnant.
My roommate Laurie knew what was going on. Besides, since we each had our own bedroom, it wouldn’t be awkward for her. I called Reggie and asked him if he’d like to come over. I guess it was in essence, a booty call. He didn’t hesitate before he answered. What 18 yr. old guy would’ve? In fact, I think he was downstairs before I got the phone hung up. Just as I suspected it was easy to walk him right to my room. Since I had a kitchenette in my room I had snacks and drinks in case we wanted anything “later”.
We talked for a few minutes then he put his plan into action. First the kissing, (I was sure he was checking to see if my tonsils were still there), then he squeezing and “tuning” my boobs. (I thought he was trying to bring in Mars on the radio, turning the knobs left, then right). I remember wondering if other girls really enjoyed this. By the time that part was over he was ready for the main event, so to speak. Now, I’d never seen one of those things before and frankly was amazed. (Of course I didn’t say anything about it).
I excused myself and fumbled around with the foam in the bathroom, just hoping that I was doing it correctly. I came back to bed for the grand finale. And so it began. (I felt like a piece of round steak getting tenderized). After ten minutes of huffing (him- not me), it was over. I laid there thinking -That’s it? That’s what all the hub-bub is about? Why? What a mess! He was sweaty; I was sticky. At that point all I wanted was for him to be gone, but that wasn’t going to happen til morning. He just laid there, then slept. I didn’t expect sonnets or anything but I didn’t even get a “Was it good for you?” (Of course back then I didn’t know what to expect- but I knew it had to be something better than what I had just experienced).
Looking back I just realized that was 40 years ago. I’m hoping that the young guys these days are either more knowledgable or at least less selfish. Reggie slipped out of my room the next morning undetected. (Of course now with the advent of co-ed dorms, I guess having a guy in your dorm room would no longer be an issue). Sadly, it was years and more than a few more “tenderizations” before I knew what all the hub-bub was about. It really made me appreciate someone who knew their way around a female body. So, I ask you, your first time, “Was it good for you?”. Today’s trivia answer-molasses.






09/19/2009 at 1:50 pm
it was so bad, for so long when i first became sexually active in 1980, i actually thought i might be frigid. happy to report not the case. i don’t know how young guys are now, better i hope.
09/19/2009 at 2:48 pm
My first time was awful. My first 50 times were awful. The guys fumbled around and I wasn’t confident enough to tell them what to do.I hope everyone else didn’t have the same experiences.Why were these guys in such a rush? Did they think we had somewhere else to go?
09/19/2009 at 4:43 pm
I’m assuming that’s a rhetorical question.
09/19/2009 at 7:01 pm
It’s a memory I’d rather forget.
09/20/2009 at 12:33 pm
From a guys perspective: I wish I knew then what I know now. I should have “practiced” first and lasted longer. My first time was barely even long enough to time. Thankfully it was my girls(later my wife)first as well so I can pretend she may not have known what to expect. Later, many years later I was “called to duty” one night. My rather cool girlfriend called me up to do her friend a favor. She was 26 and still a virgin and I was called in to “make her a woman” I think I broke every traffic violation possible getting there! I brought protection and all I had was time so I spent the entire weekend with her. I made sure she was comfortable and picked out her favorite music to play and took my time making sure she would cherish the night for the rest of her life. I even brought her a warm, moist towel for the sticky afters. I gave her breakfast in bed and I sent her flowers every day for a week.
I wanted her to feel as special as she was. After she told my girlfriend about it I had to live up to a new set of expectations…
09/20/2009 at 3:04 pm
No guy I ever met when I was young was that thoughtful.