Do you believe in love at first sight? * I do, kind of.
According to Dr.Helen Fisher, we make the decision about whether a guy could be an appropriate match for us within the first three minutes. Instantly, actually in less than 1 second, you’ve already made the decision on whether or not he’s your cup of tea, physically. If he passes that hurdle, you’re checking out his voice next. Does he sound more like Tiny Tim, Tom Selleck or James Earl Jones? Do you like his voice? Once again, your decision is made within seconds.
If you’re lucky, you’re in a place where you can actually have a conversation, not a crowded club or concert. Now you can get down to the nitty gritty and have a discussion to base your decision on. How smart is he? I usually tried to date guys who had about the same intelligence as I do. I dated down once. Big mistake. He was just eye candy, a mimbo. What kind of background does he come from? He is interesting? Is he truly interested in you?
When Doug and I finally had our dance the night we met, something definitely clicked. I went back to his house for a drink and we stayed up talking all night- literally. Both our dads were engineers. We were both raised Methodist; both went to UT, and even worked at the same restaurant at the same time in Austin. I knew by dawn he was the one for me. He told me soon after we met that he had a date scheduled for the next night. (I’m guessing that was an easy out if it didn’t click with me). The next day I told him that I’d go on home so he could go on his date, no problem. He canceled his date. We’ve been together ever since and married three weeks later in a simple civil ceremony, just the two of us.
I guess it was love at first sight for us. I mean it wasn’t within the first three minutes, but it was within 12 hours. Apparently we’re in the minority though. Ayala Malach-Pines, PhD, of Ben-Gurion University in Israel, said only 11 percent of the 493 respondents in her survey said their long-term relationships started that way. Do you believe in love at first sight?
* Excluding your newborn.
Good life story!
Thanks for your comment Renee. I appreciate it.
How are you gonna top this on Valentine’s Day?
GREAT story. Mostly cuz it’s true.
Ain’t love grand?
Hugs
Mother Connie
Not sure about Valentine’s Day yet kiddo. It seems light years away right now. Have a great evening.
I don’t believe in love at first sight but my wife does and I guess that’s what counts. It took me a while to trust anyone after my ex left me and my boys. Even longer for me to surrender my heart. I’m glad I met Andrea and I can’t imagine my life without her. She works 2 1/2 hours away and then she drives out to here on her days off. I hate having to share her with anyone when we’re together.
It would seem you and Andi are a perfect match. You’re very lucky indeed.
I met my husby on a blind date, the Friday after Thanksgiving in 1970. I guess it was love at first site. I was smitten and I received 3 letters from him the next week (he was in college about 30 minutes away). He came home every weekend after that, until his parents asked him in May if he was going to stay on campus and study for exams. (Fortunately, the longer we dated, the better his grades were.) We dated for five years and have been married for 34 years. We even survived a two separation while he was in grad school and I was finishing my BS. So I guess it was love at first site and it’s still working.
That’s true. I’ve seen it with my own eyeballs.